“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” Wayne Dyer
There seems to be an almost constant conflict within our heads. As I become more aware of what I’m noticing it is almost comical to listen to myself worry, doubt and replay my behaviors and reactions to the world around me. I used to think it was just me that had the critical voice and soundtrack of doubt constantly running through my head, but as I have discussed this with friends and clients it seems to be universal. Although I’m sure we all have slight variations, most of the common voices seem say ‘you’re not good (smart, thin, young, etc…) enough’ or ‘who do you think you are?’ I’ve often said that it would be both terrifying and comforting if we were able to invent a machine to broadcast our thoughts. Although I wouldn’t want people to hear how critical I am of myself, hearing that I’m not the only one would be comforting. When I have a decision to make there are at least two, but often many more voices that are arguing back and forth. One voice will make a point, but then another will counter with a different argument, often another voice will chime in and remind me of something else. It is exhausting to keep going over and over the same incident. The thing I should have said or done, but didn’t or the thing I shouldn’t have said or done but did. I sometimes feel as if I’ve run a marathon and in reality nothing has changed except the fact that I’m exhausted. At times it feels like a real conflict. I love Wayne Dyer’s quote because any conflict, even the conflict in our head can’t survive without our participation. So the big question is, ‘HOW DO I STOP PARTICIPATING!?!’ While those conflicting voices are part of our humanness and are always with us, here are five steps to turn down the volume:
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